I know it's not just me.
Every time I log on, log in, humanity the world over—but especially the Western world, towards which my media outlets are admittedly biased—seems owly. 'He-who-shall-not-be-named', or the 45th U.S. president is blasting someone, anyone, for their ineptitude, then firing schoolyard threats at Asia's latest princeling tyrant—a sad simulacrum for 'Modern' man; protesters bearing startling resemblance to bald-faced Hitler Youth from vintage posters (complete with Leave It To Beaver side-parts in dirty-blond locks) clash violently with enraged counter-protesters of all stripes, united solely by their fear of returning to a not-so-distant past; Twitter, YouTube, and alternate comment-section trolling fit to fill reams of hypothetical paper; the divisiveness of Brexit, splitting families, friends from friends, across supper tables: the list goes on and on. Bloggers, magazines, newspapers recommending 'digital detoxes' (while you read this—online), to prevent depression, anxiety, aggression, fear-mongering: 'We are not rational enough to be exposed to the press', according to the Guardian (why, then, do you continue publishing, I wonder?)... But if you suggest the kindergarten platitude, 'can't we all get along'—tout the virtues of the golden rule—accusations of naivety, willful ignorance, and conscious or subconscious treachery follow.
It's like we've collectively lost our innate, or better yet primate, ability to empathize—that near sensory experience triggered by mirror neurons that fire when we watch another person grab an apple—throw a ball—which some scientists have argued is the basis of culture. For how else do we, if not partly, explain language acquisition, the anthropomorphism of fictional, robotic characters (here's looking at you, C3PO), learning to play a sport or musical instrument, or dance in its entirety. The things that individually, collectively, lift us up. The things that inspire.
One of my most poignant memories travelling occurred on a rainy December morning in Paris. My husband and I were crammed in the back of shared taxi, our and our fellow travellers' luggage towering over us, on our laps. As street lights shimmered off outside puddles, and I miserably contemplated my choice of having five more minutes sleep over my morning caffeine, the song 'Somebody I Used to Know' came on the radio. Quietly at first with drugged sleepiness, then joyfully and loudly as the chorus hit—index fingers pointing rhythmically in the air—a Spanish couple in front of us sang along. Perhaps it was the surreality of the 4:00 a.m. wake up, perhaps just the kickstart I needed to remind me of my incredible privilege to be there, but the absurdity of our interconnectedness as a species hit me. Because we were listening to Spanish-speakers sing in stilted English to a pop song written by a Belgian-Australian—in France.
The motley crew's road trip to Gjógv gave a similar insight. The evening prior we stopped in a Tórshavn grocery to buy picnic supplies: dried mini-sausages, mild (not strong) cheese aided by some etymological sleuthing (my middle name's Poirot), crackers, and a brand of Swedish chocolate with caramel chunks (get the Daim, trust me). Inspired to take what we called 'Buttercup' routes due to the little yellow-flowered icons on our map, we hit the road. Our chosen destination was the furthest point we could reach via car, Viðareiði; after several slightly terrifying one-way tunnel passages later, we arrived. Our first sight was a statuesque young Viking mother pushing a nineteenth century pram in traditional garb, corset and all: we squealed with delight. Soon after we discovered she'd returned from a wedding as we watched the photographer pose a young couple in mid-afternoon sun on a rocky promontory jutting out from the church. Then, we headed back via Klasvík, winding in and out of breathtaking sunlit views, which always seemed around the next bend. Late-afternoon ramble and lunch done, we slowly eased into idyllic Gjógv at 8:30 p.m.
Children played under watchful eyes of parents in a golden-lit stream. We parked, hiked another promontory, marvelled at birds soaring near towering cliffs' edges. Then, on our way back down, several locals well into the resident happy-hour at outdoor tables offered us food and drink: 'Where are you from? Canada! Have you tried any dried fish? No, you must eat it with boiled potatoes, here take a little blubber! You like it, whoa, I'm impressed! Not all foreigners do!' In the long arctic light we laughed at jokes, admired village dynamics ('Such a silly man 'bout those potatoes!'), and with sadness declined further beer due to impending reservations in Tórshavn. As I snapped a pic of a man sawing wooden planks on the return to the car, I thought people are the same, the world over—'There is nothing new under the sun', or so they say.
'I'd like to buy the world a trip' seems to be my latest mantra, honing my efforts on documenting not just on what makes us different but what makes us the same: shaving, the choice between mild or strong cheese, late afternoon chores, dried fish, weddings. Joint appreciation of sunlit evenings with laughter and libations on a patio. The necessity of having a slightly unkempt place to store trailers, tires, maybe pluck a chicken. Or the careful storage of a boat for winter.